As we see Personal Matchmaking making a resurgence in this heterosexual dominated world, you can find yourself asking yourself, is Personal Matchmaking available to the lesbian community – the simple answer is YES!
As people have become disillusioned with online dating such as Scissr because of the lack of commitment, wasted time and dangers, this has led people to look for different ways to find love. Matchmaking is now the ‘go to’ way in which TV companies use as well, from Love Island, Celebs Go Dating, First Dates, Too Hot To Handle to name but a few. Although sadly, like so many other TV programs there is nothing dedicated to the lesbian or gay community which I for one find incredibly excluding, if not insulting. Could you imagine if all these shows were strictly for the LGBTQ+ community – there would be an uproar.
The good news I am pleased to say is that Personal Matchmaking is available for the lesbian community. Matchmaking works completely different to online dating; so, the trick is to make sure they are truly a Personal Matchmaking service and not just pretending they are. So, it is important to do your research before taking the plunge.
Helpful advice and guidance to make sure you are receiving a bespoke Matchmaking Service
With a Personal Matchmaking service, the journey begins with an initial enquiry, at this point you should be speaking with a professional explaining the process and what it involves – not filling out your own profile or uploading your own photos, this would mean it is in fact just another online dating app. I would also add, at this point you should feel no pressure at all to invest in a service, it is all about discovering your options.
Make sure you are asking as many questions as you possibly can to identify what the service provides. I know this sounds obvious but writing your questions or concerns beforehand will make sure you ask the questions that are central to you, not the other way around. Questions about security and privacy are often good to find out about – if neither of these are offered it might be time to question the service. Also, at this point try to be as open as possible, this will ensure you get the right advise and service.
If you decide that a Personal Matchmaking service is for you and join a Matchmaking service, then the next step would be to have your discovery interview with your Personal Matchmaker. This could be done via a Teams call, a Zoom call, or a visit to the office for a face-to-face discovery interview. Again, when you speak with your Matchmaker it is vital that you are as honest as you can be to allow your Matchmaker to truly understand you, and to build a friendship with you that will last your entire dating journey in your search to find ‘The One’.
Patience is also a must with a personal Matchmaking Service. It’s so easy if you’ve been using apps and online dating sites to take this mindset into a Matchmaking service, it’s so important you don’t. I would say at this point they are polar opposites -one provides a bespoke Matchmaking service in a safe environment in which real people are actively searching to find you a possible match, and I’m sure you can imagine this takes time if being done properly. The other is a self-served option, with no safety checks and the thankless task of you having to check the female you are meeting is indeed who they say they are. A Matchmaking service is best approached as a journey, one that you don’t go through on your own, but with a fully trained Matchmaker to help and assist you all the way in your search to find love.