Gay long term relationship dating sites
Refreshingly, there are so many options now for gay dating now in the form of online dating sites, driven by algorithms, apps for your phone or Personal Matchmaking services, which is great news! With that said, it can soon start to become a bit of a minefield, to the point where you stop looking. So, I thought I would take a look at a few of the options available, to help you pick what’s right for you!
Professional Gay Matchmaking Service
So, let us start with Matchmaking, and the first question people often ask me is ‘what is a personal Matchmaking service?’. In a nutshell, a personal Matchmaking service is when you buy and sign up to a Matchmaking company and then your personal Matchmaker looks to find suitable matches based on your preferences. But let us take a more in-depth look so we can focus on what we can expect.
Gay Relationship Matchmaking Service
If you join Gay Relationship Matchmaking service, it really is a personal service. Your Matchmaker will interview you, finding out as much about you as they can – family, hobbies, likes, dislikes, past dating experiences and what your relationship aspirations are. This enables them to build a picture up in their mind for the partner that you are looking for. In-depth checks are done using a system called LexisNexis, this checks residency, solvency, fraud, and recent criminal activity. This is done to make sure people are who they say they are, protecting you from outside dangers, giving you a safe environment to look for love. A profile will then be written with up-to-date photos added, your profile will never be used online or shared with anyone other than matches that are found - discretion and privacy are one of the key benefits. Once your profile has been approved by yourself, your Matchmaker will then start actively looking for a partner for you. The process is longer than some of the other options we will look at, so patience is the key to a successful membership.
Dating Apps and Online Dating
This option of looking to find love is the complete opposite to Matchmaking. You will build your own profile including pictures of yourself, your home address, and your contact number, then upload it on to whichever site you choose for all to see. With these sites there are no verification systems in place, so it is a case of crossing your fingers and hoping that people are genuine. This can be incredibly exposing, leaving you open to all the perils associated with it.
Let’s take a look at a few of the options for gay dating apps
- Grindr is first, which is no surprise at all. Set up in 2009 it revolutionised the gay dating scene for men, giving options to all. Primarily a site formulated for quick hook ups it became the cornerstone for the male gay community. Once you joined, you upload a picture, and you can add a small bio – this is typically used for sexual preferences as opposed to information on hobbies or interests. When using the app, the men will be listed in order of proximity, this can be turned off but as it’s primarily a hook-up site, why would you! You can also upgrade for a cost to Grinr Xtra, if you do it allows you to see six times more men in your local area. There are no security checks or filters, so maybe when you have read this blog check out my ‘How to stay safe when gay dating’. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a bit/lot of fun, but make sure you are doing it safely.
- Scissr is often referred to as the lesbian Grindr, although most users would say it is a little bit classier than its counterpart. Three photos can be added, and a 300-word bio can be uploaded by yourself. It works on your GPRS, enabling you to find people, or be found by people in your local area. Again, with no security or verification in place, caution is required.
- Scruff is again similar to Grindr but has an older demographic. Scruff by name and Scruff by nature, it lends itself to people with beards and has a hipster type feel to it. It has different feature – more so for its premium members, such as private picture albums and video content with the general expectation that these contain nudes.
- Feeld has cornered the market for what it does. Aimed at providing a platform to cater to people expanding their needs within a relationship or group Feeld has it covered. Whether it be wanting a third or wanting to be a third for the evening, finding a Polyamorous relationship, or any other kind of kinks and sexual needs, they are readily available.
So, there is a very brief overview of the different ways to try and find a long-term gay relationship through different platforms that are available to you. Whether it is safety, privacy, fun or the desire to stop playing the field and find long term love the good news is that there really are so many choices out there.