I have been asked this question so many times and the simple answer you will be pleased to hear is YES, of course they do! A same sex long term relationship is no different to a heterosexual relationship, the trick is how to avoid the people who just want sex for fun and not a deep and meaningful long-term relationship. Love and companionship are such a basic human need irrespective of our own sexual orientation and to find that love and connection is so important. So, I have put together a few thoughts and guidance to help you in your quest to find the life partner that you are looking for.
I think the first thing to ask yourself is where you are looking for to find that special person. With the dating scene changed beyond recognition since the pandemic it can become a real struggle. The online dating sites certainly cornered the marketplace for a long time, although people have become disillusioned with fake profiles, cat fishing and sadly at times, assault. This only adds to the confusion and stress we go through in what should be a beautiful experience.
Sites like Grindr, Scissr, Scruff and Feeld are a wonderful place to hook up for a bit of fun with no strings attached – and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, everything has it is time and place! It is fun scrolling through endless pictures to find someone that you would like an evening with or a casual hook up now and again. But once you have exhausted that and feel within yourself that it is time to settle down and enjoy the love, long walks in the countryside, holidays, going out for lovely meals and sometimes just cuddling up on the sofa watching tv, then maybe a fresh approach is needed.
The other option to finding ‘the one’ is by using a Gay Personal Matchmaking service. Something that when online dating took off became outdated, replaced instead by limitless swiping on people’s profiles, it seemed the instant and exciting way to find a partner. As time has gone by the dangers and pitfalls have started to rear their heads and people began to doubt how genuine people using the sites were and have started to look elsewhere.
It has caused a resurgence in Matchmaking with many of the tv programs such as Celebs go Dating, Married at First Site, Love Island and First Dates using this approach due to its personal service. Often being a paid service, this means that only people who genuinely want to find love and a long-time relationship join. It saves you the time of fishing through the likes of Grindr, focusing on flirty photos and guides you to matters of the heart and mind. Do not get me wrong on that, physical attraction is so important, but if that were all that mattered then you would not be reading this. I feel to find that special love, you have to open your heart and mind to different things and different attributes in a person, having a personal Matchmaker to guide you through this process and be your ‘dating guru’ is invaluable.
Why not have a read some of our other blogs which may help you on your dating journey – Your Guide To A Long-Term Gay Relationship, and How To Stay Safe When Gay Dating.
Which ever path you choose to travel down, I wish you all the luck in the world in finding that special person that will bring you all the joy, comfort and happiness that comes with it.